Ladies: 4 Rules for Dating a Nerd

As some of you know, last week Disney purchased George Lucas’s Star Wars franchise for a sum somewhere north of 4 billion dollars. Yes, Disney will produce the next round of Star Wars movies, which will continue the story from where it left off with Return of The Jedi. To those of us who exist in the large Venn diagram intersection between Intellectual Badass and Nerd, this is big news. Of course, such big news (and the mixed opinions that […]

Which is Better for the Online Dating Photo: Cute, or Edgy?

You’ve probably heard me say this before, but as part of my research I spend time checking out online dating profiles: the good, the bad, and the pitiful. You’ve probably also heard me say that a big problem with many online dating profiles is that they’re generic – they sound like everyone else’s profile and don’t give us a look into what makes that person unique. Sometimes this is just a lack of writing skill; but more often, generic profiles […]

Dating: Are You Making the Approach, or Making Them Uncomfortable?

Last weekend I did something I’ve never done before: I went to my first “Con.” By “Con” I’m referring to conferences that appeal to science fiction and fantasy fans like myself, such as Comic Con. The place was chock full of Intellectual Badasses and I spent most of my time going to talks about writing, film, and science, and meeting some cool people. Pretty interesting, for the most part. As with most conferences, various groups had booths or tables set […]

This is Your Brain on Love

Many scientific researchers and other Intellectual Badasses have sought to understand what happens in the brain when we experience love. And why not? Love, in its many forms, is a distinctly pleasurable feeling, one that differs from other feelings. And feelings aren’t just random energies that come from nowhere; they result from naturally occurring chemicals in our brains, as a result of our thoughts and experiences. I found a link to a video on this very topic. Some researchers at […]

Cheating Ex Wants The LBF (Let’s Be Friends): Should She Say Yes?

  Dear Christie, As a brainy and attractive academic, I love your website!  Here is a situation I haven’t seen posted; I’d love some input: A couple years ago I was in a short term relationship with a colleague, who, as was I, recently separated from our spouses.  We are in our late 40s/early 50s.  I have now been divorced for over a year; he is still separated with final papers ready to be filed (for over the last year).  […]

Day 30: Wrapping up 30 Days of Dating Advice for Intellectual Badasses

Good morning, Intellectual Badasses! Guess what? It’s Day 30 – which means that, after today, your email inbox will no longer be inundated with daily musings from yours truly. We’ve covered a lot of topics in this campaign, and it’s been fun, intellectually stimulating, and a good learning experience. If you missed anything or want to review what we’ve covered, here is a menu of the 30-day campaign, with links to each article. I plan to continue offering dating advice […]

Day 29: On Dating an Engineer

  Good morning, Intellectual Badasses, and Welcome to Day 29. We’re close to wrapping up our 30-Day IB journey, and we’ve covered a LOT of ground. But we haven’t yet spent much time talking specifically about a particular strain of Intellectual Badass. As you know, the title of Intellectual Badass also includes those who are technically inclined. Which means it includes you engineers out there. I ran across an amusing article entitled “Engineers Explained.” Although the scope of the article […]

Day 28: Staying Out of The Friend Zone

Welcome to Day 28 of 30 Days of Dating Advice for Intellectual Badasses! Today I want to talk about the Friend Zone: what it is, how it develops, and what to do about it.   The Friend Zone The Friend Zone refers to that place where someone you’re interested in likes you but doesn’t want to take the relationship to the next level. They may say, “I only see you as a friend,” or, in some cases, nothing is said […]

Day 27: Should an Intellectual Badass Date a non-IB?

Happy Monday, Intellectual Badasses. I have a question for you: if you ever watched the TV show Friends (who didn’t, right?), how did you feel about Ross and Rachel’s relationship? Did you like them together? Did they seem like a well-matched couple? What did you think about them getting together in the end? I ask because Ross and Rachel represent a good example of an IB/non-IB relationship. Sure, we’re talking about television here and not a real relationship. But I […]

Day 26: When You’re Smarter Than Your Date… and Female

Happy Sunday, all. It’s Day 26 of 30 Days of Dating Advice for Intellectual Badasses. Some time ago I wrote a post about what to do when you’re smarter than you’re date. If you’re an IB, it’s going to happen at some point. Today, I want to talk about what to do when you’re the bright one… and female. Yes, it’s different if you’re a woman. I’m not going to go all feminist on you. That’s not what I’m about. […]