When He’s Not Ready for Commitment… With YOU

  You’ve heard the saying: It’s not that a man doesn’t want commitment. It’s that he’s doesn’t want to commit to YOU. Ouch, right? A punch to the gut. And sometimes a man isn’t ready for commitment, and there is no “right woman” for him if he’s not ready. Yet, more often than not, when a man stalls on moving forward with you, it’s because you aren’t the one for him. I see this situation a lot in my work with […]

Confidence and Insecurity, Part 2: Women

  People who dispense dating advice will often tell you that confidence is sexy, sexier than a good income or a great face, and a key to attracting the other sex. And they’re right. However, it’s more of a challenge to define what confidence is and how to convey it. Sometimes, it’s easier to offer examples of what confidence ISN’T. Last time, I talked about confidence and why it’s important. In my mind, confidence is believing in yourself. It’s being […]

Fear and the Divorced Man

In my coaching practice, I work with a variety of people: men and women, those ranging from mid-20s to early 50s, and interesting people from various walks of life, from a small-town Mountain Man to a career woman in a big East Coast city. And while my clients seek me out for a variety of challenges, one particular challenge falls across my desk on a regular basis: a woman is dating a separated or divorced man. In Dating the Divorced Man, […]

Dating the Divorced Man: The Plight of the First Wife

On this blog, I have an entire category of articles entitled “Dating and Divorce.” These articles span various topics related to dating after a divorce, but most are devoted to a specialty area of mine: dating separated and divorced men. Many of the articles in that folder represent my most frequented and most commented articles. I published Dating the Divorced Man in 2007 and it’s now it its 2nd edition. Clearly, this is a topic many people can relate to. […]

Christie’s Digest: V-Day Edition, 2015

  Greetings, all. It’s been a while since I’ve put together a “digest” of interesting articles. These will include articles I was part of as well as others that I just found worth reading. Enjoy, and have a fun Cupid’s Day!   Podcast Interview with Justin from Giving Shy Guys Game I had a nice long interview with Justin about everything from dating after divorce to whether there really is such thing as an alpha male.

Christie’s Digest: Relationship Advice Edition

Greetings, all. Hope you’re enjoying your summer and tolerating the July heat, humidity, and/or monsoons. Hot or no, it could be summer all year round as far as I’m concerned. LOVE it. I’ve been fortunate enough to be quoted in a lot of articles recently, all of them very good. So thought I’d share some of them with you for a little fun and informative reading.   Guys: 6 Lies She’s Been Telling You Have you ever dated a woman who […]

What’s WRONG with Dating Advice

I had a bad experience recently. I was part of an event affiliated with Match.com, where I and a few others were panelists in a discussion with a roomful of singles. It was an interactive event, where the MC asked the audience what dating challenges they face, and we panelists would chime in with advice. There were 5 panelists, one of whom was an outspoken, opinionated guy who did a lot of the talking on the panel. He owns a bunch […]

Dating a Divorced Man: Signs His Ex isn’t Over Him

One of the most common concerns I hear from women dating divorced men is something relating to his ex. Perhaps she’s still in the picture. Or she’s not in the picture but she bugs you anyway. Or maybe she doesn’t like you, or uses the kids as pawns to manipulate your boyfriend, or he’s talking to her or helping her more often than you feel comfortable with. Many exes aren’t a problem. But when she is a problem, even a […]

Christie’s Digest: Amazon reviews, How To Pick up a Single Dad, and More…

Happy Thursday all! I just got done with Denver Comic Con last weekend. It was a BLAST… even more fun than last year, and I didn’t think that was possible! It doesn’t hurt that I sold all but 5 of my books 🙂 Here are a few new announcements:       Amazon Reviews First, the new edition of Dating the Divorced Man could use some more Amazon reviews! Reviews mean the world to me and to both past and future readers. […]

Is My Separated Man on the Rebound?

Whenever you see a friend or family member end a relationship or marriage and immediately get involved with someone new, what is your first thought? Rebound!   But What is Rebounding, Exactly? Rebounding occurs when the loss of a relationship creates a sizable void in your life, and you do what most people do when they encounter a void in their personal life: FILL IT. If you’re hungry, you crave food. If you’re thirsty, you crave water. And if you’ve suddenly lost a person […]