Dating and Change: What Does it Mean to “Leave Your Comfort Zone”?

Last time, I talked about change: why change is necessary in dating, the difference between changing who you are and changing ineffective behaviors or habits, and why people resist change. This is such an important topic that one could write volumes on it. After all, change is often the one thing standing between you and what you want. One of the tough things about change is facing the unknown. What’s familiar, even if it sucks, can be comforting because you […]

Online Dating Tips for Introverts

Online dating can be a different experience for introverts. On the one hand, the “putting yourself out there” and the making small talk with complete strangers can prove taxing to the introvert. On the other, online dating can be achieved from the quiet and comfort of your own home and involves only 1-on-1 communications, both of which favor the introvert. And, in the end, as I’ve said 100 times before, online dating is a useful vehicle to meet other singles you […]

What is Introversion, and Why is it Important in Dating?

Four years ago, I wrote a blog entitled “Are You an Attractive Introvert?” I was surprised even then–when far fewer people read this blog–how much interest the article generated. But since then, and especially this year, the article has gone viral and generated a record number of page views and comments. The truth is, dating is a different ballgame for introverts… and it’s a really different ballgame for Attractive Introverts (AIs). The idea of introversion has gained much traction in the […]

30 Days of Dating Advice for Intellectual Badasses

Starting August 1st, 2012, I will launch a new blog campaign: 30 Days of Dating Advice for Intellectual Badasses (IBs). I am psyched about this and look forward to all of you joining in the conversation! Here are the details:   What’s an Intellectual Badass, Anyway? Intellectual Badass: noun. 1) A person with a penchant for science, computers, books, science fiction, or other specialty area involving heavy use of the intellect. 2) A bright, kick-ass person. IBs are smart, intellectual […]

Are You an “Attractive Introvert?”

I just read an article on the Huffington Post called 7 Things You Thought You Knew About Introverts. Introverts are generally quieter people – they’re internal. Unlike extroverts, who feel at ease talking and making their feelings and opinions known to anyone who will listen, introverts tend to keep their feelings and opinions on the inside, at least until you get to know them. And while many extroverts have no trouble approaching or talking to strangers, introverts don’t often do […]