When He’s Not Ready for Commitment… With YOU

  You’ve heard the saying: It’s not that a man doesn’t want commitment. It’s that he’s doesn’t want to commit to YOU. Ouch, right? A punch to the gut. And sometimes a man isn’t ready for commitment, and there is no “right woman” for him if he’s not ready. Yet, more often than not, when a man stalls on moving forward with you, it’s because you aren’t the one for him. I see this situation a lot in my work with […]

Over 40 and Never Been Married: Problem, or Not? Part 2…

A few weeks ago, I wrote a post outlining several reasons a man or woman may not have married by the time he/she reaches 40. You can check it out here. A reader and regular commenter asked a good question, which was: “Why is it that once someone reaches their late 30′s (especially male), the status of “never married” is considered to be more of a red flag in dating, than “divorced”?” There is some truth to this. But why? […]

Over 40 and Never Been Married: Problem, or Not?

Every generation has an age where, consciously or otherwise, we expect to be married by. In the old days, it was 30. In more modern times, it was pushed back to 35. Now, it’s 40, and likely still increasing. These expectations are based on what society is doing – the earlier the average person marries, the earlier we’re expected to marry. These days, the mean age at first marriage is at an all-time high: 26 for women, 28 for men. […]

My Divorced Man Lives Overseas and Won’t Visit. What Do I Do?

  Hi Christie, First of all, congratulations on getting married. All the best wishes. I did some research online and came across Dating the Divorced Man. I’ve read many self-help books and your book seems very helpful from what I saw on Amazon. I have a problem with intimacy (trust issues). No relationship lasted more than a year. Recovered codependent thru self-help. Coming to terms, accepting the fact I went thru an unrequited love and realizing I might not be […]