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Yours truly, hiking Ventana Canyon in Tucson.

Greetings and salutations, all!

Remember me? Christie Hartman? Dr. Christie? Yes, I’m still alive. But if you’ve forgotten who I was or assumed I was abducted by aliens, it’s because the last time I published a blog on this site was 8/7/15. Yeah, that long ago.

There are a lot of reasons for that, some good and some bad. The good is I needed time to focus on a passion project of mine, which is my fiction business. I’ve gotten several books out and am beginning to grow an audience, something that can take a long, LONG time. It’s been lots of hard work but also very enriching for my soul.

The bad is that, to be honest with you all, I’m not a fan of the dating industry and I didn’t want to be part of it anymore. Don’t get me wrong–there are good dating experts doing good work out there. But there are also plenty who are exploiting single people in the hopes of making a ton of money as well as offering dating advice that lacks either real expertise or a respect for people. For some reason, dating advice (unlike relationship or marital advice) tends to attract a lot of hacks.

So why am I here, writing this?

Because one of my callings in life is to use my knowledge and expertise to help people. I miss doing that. I never shut down this blog or website because I knew, on some level, that I would want to resurrect it again. But it’s going to be a little different than before.

What’s Next?

Many dating and relationship advice experts tend to evolve into related but new areas in which they can serve others. Some of these areas include personal growth, success, and/or spirituality. And it makes sense. There’s only so much dating advice you can give, only so much a person can benefit from. In the end, success in dating, like success in any area of life, is about our own journeys as humans, about learning to become the best person we can be.

As such, this blog will include more posts on personal growth and success. Will I still offer dating advice? Definitely. But I will go beyond that, and share with you the things I’ve learned on becoming the person you want to be and living the life you want to live. If you can learn those tools, your dating life will prosper, as will other areas of your life.

So what sort of topics am I going to talk about? Here are a few that I’ve already planned:

  • How to determine your core values, and live your life with them as your guide.
  • What introversion is, and how it affects your dating life (I’ll probably put out a book on this topic, too).
  • Attachment styles and how they impact dating and relationship success.
  • Book reviews on personal growth and success books, especially the classics.
  • Learning to see relationships as growth experiences, not possessions.
  • Mental illness and how it impacts your dating life.

And much, much more.

If these topics interest you, great. Stay tuned. I will be updating the site with better WordPress themes and updated images as well.

If you’ve moved on or don’t have interest in these topics or me, no problem at all. Just unsubscribe and I wish you the best of luck.

I’ve missed you all. And I look forward to where this goes.