New Research on Men and Dating: Men Want Commitment Too

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A new article came out in The Daily Beast, entitled “Why Men are Settling for Mrs. Good Enough.” The article includes an interview with Helen Fisher and some very interesting quotes and stats based on a recent study that included 6,000 people. Jessica Bennet, who wrote the article, says:

Rather than living up to the stereotype of commitment-phobic bachelors, modern men reported that they fell in love just as often as women, were just as likely to believe that marriage is “forever,” and scarcely bit when asked whether they’d prefer to “just date a lot of people.” But most shocking was how many of the single men wanted to settle down—and how willing they were to lower their standards to make that happen. A whopping 31 percent of adult men said they’d commit to a person they were not in love with—as long as as she had all the other attributes they were looking for in a mate…

To illustrate, one married man in his 40s was quoted as saying: “My wife isn’t perfect. She isn’t the best I’ve had in bed. But she’s a wonderful mother to our daughter, she’s very helpful in our business life, and we get along very well.”

Many people still subscribe to the belief that men don’t want marriage or family, or that they insist on chasing the Hot Chick. However, this research suggests that men take marriage seriously and are willing to think hard about the sort of traits they want in a wife.

What’s interesting in this article is the idea of “settling,” or stepping away from what you really want in order to get married and start a family.

I could go on and on about this, but I’d rather open this up to discussion. Check out the article. What do you think? Whether you’re male or female, does this article fit with your experiences? Is it “settling” to marry someone who isn’t your ideal, or just realistic? Do you think men would really marry someone they aren’t in love with?