Greetings, all. It’s been a while since I’ve put together a “digest” of interesting articles. These will include articles I was part of as well as others that I just found worth reading. Enjoy, and have a fun Cupid’s Day!
I had a nice long interview with Justin about everything from dating after divorce to whether there really is such thing as an alpha male.
These days, everyone’s dating online. In addition, more and more people are mobile dating, i.e. using their phones or other portable devices to find nearby singles. And probably one of the most well-known mobile dating apps is Tinder.
Tinder allows you to sign up through Facebook and use your Facebook pics and a brief write-up as your profile. It searches for other singles in your area at any given time. Once it finds one, you have a choice to make: if you don’t like what you see, you swipe left. If you do, you swipe right. If he or she does the same for you, you begin to figure out a time/place to meet. It’s that simple. Read More
Last time I wrote about niceness, and why it seems to backfire with some people. It generated a great discussion on Facebook, which made me think some more about what niceness is and why it can be a problem.
I will begin with this: all good traits have a problematic side, and niceness is no exception.
Let’s take optimism: optimistic people tend to be happier, more successful, and more able to handle the ups and downs of real life. However, too much optimism is a problem when you refuse to see the signs of looming problems or think that all will work out instead of planning for potential disaster.
“Nice guys finish last.”
Who hasn’t heard this dusty old aphorism? It’s been around longer than most of us. These days, the die hard PUAs will tell you without compunction that being a Nice Guy is the Kiss of Death, the painful road to a celibate life or at least a life of achieving only AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) status.
And guys aren’t the only one who get this message. Ever heard of the book Why Men Love Bitches? Yes, there is such a book and yes, it’s a bestseller, peeps. And yes, I’ve read it; It’s just the die hard PUA stuff in reverse.
So, modern wisdom would tell us that women don’t like nice guys and men don’t respect nice girls. And we can call bullshit and laugh at such gamey, cynical crap and expound the awesomeness of good people… and we would be right to do so. Totally right. Read More
Yes, there really is such a thing. January and February are hot months for dating: coaches and matchmakers get more clients, online dating sites see more enrollees, and people in general are more motivated to get out there and find someone.
There could be many reasons for this: New Year’s resolutions, escaping the winter doldrums, impending Valentine’s Day, or just being tired of seeing family over the holidays and having them bug you about finding someone. Read More