A Goodbye… For Now.


Hi all,

Happy March. Happy winter is almost over. Happy everything.

You’ve probably noticed that the blog has been a little quiet lately. Okay, super quiet. Yeah, I’ve been utterly overwhelmed with work. What happened was that last year I picked up some freelance work (a lot of it), and then I ended up getting a great job as a writer and editor. So I wound up working like a dog dealing with both of those, plus my own writing, and didn’t have time to blog or to further what I wanted to do with this site. The plan all along was to do this part time, as a way of sharing my journey through life and helping others along the way.

But now I see that I can’t do all that. It’s too much. If I’m going to stay sane and remain true to my values, I have to cut back, which means no more blogs or books for a while. I’ll still be coaching.

Fortunately, there are plenty of great websites and experts out there who devote full time to this sort of thing. Dr. Axe and MindBodyGreen for natural health and wellness, Deepak Chopra and the Chopra Institute for meditation and spirituality, John Gottman and the Gottman Institute for relationship and marital health, Martha Beck for personal growth and finding what you want in life, PsychCentral and Psychology Today for mental health, just to name a few.

It’s been great hanging with you all, especially those of you who’ve been around since the beginning (you know who you are). I can’t tell you how much I’ve enjoyed getting to know you, and I appreciate your being here and your support.

I don’t know when or even if I’ll come back to write on this site. It will remain here, with tons of content for anyone to read and comment on. But the universe is calling me elsewhere, and I’ve learned to listen to that calling. It’s also telling me to stop trying to do everything, so I’m going to do my best to quit being stubborn and listen.

I’m still around, at my sci-fi Twitter account (@5280_scifi) and on Facebook, and I’m here if you need coaching. Stay in touch.

Take care of yourselves and be well.



Christie… Are you out there…?

Greetings all.

Yeah, it’s been a while since I last posted. Over a month. Too long.

And I’m sorry for that.

But I do have a decent excuse. Homegirl has a day job now, after far too long NOT having one. That’s a good thing, especially since I get to be a writer and editor. However, I committed to a bunch of stuff (like freelance editing) before I got the position, not to mention I’m releasing some fiction this spring, which means I’m freaking busy as shit and working about 70 hours a week.

So, I haven’t had time to blog. And I hate half-assing blogs.

But the busy phase (or the worst of it, at least) will pass in another month or so. It’s not permanent. Because that much work, even for a workaholic like me, is too much work. Remember when I talked about the importance of living your values as part of having a good life and finding a good relationship? Yeah, too much work means not living my other values, including doing the work I do here.

How are you? How were the holidays? How’s winter? How’s dating and relationships and life?

Good, I hope.

Drop me a line and tell me what’s been happening. I will put together a real article soon, I promise.

In the meantime, Happy Groundhog Day. I’m going to watch that movie tonight, and you should too. It’s funny, yeah, but it’s profound as shit. It’s about working to be the best people we can be, even if it takes a lifetime.

See you soon,


Relationships and Mental Illness, Week 5: Narcissism


It’s Week 5 of our exploration into mental illness and its impact on dating and relationships. Or I guess it’s Article 5, since I missed last week (bad Christie). So far, we’ve covered anxietysocial anxietydepression, and bipolar disorder. Today, we’ll cover something different, something that’s common in our culture, that has no known biological origins (unlike the other disorders), and that is extremely resistant to treatment. Have you guessed what it is yet?

Yeah. Narcissism. read more…

Relationships and Mental Illness, Week 4: Bipolar Disorder


A good visualization of the different levels of bipolar disorder (BP) from Sketchy Medicine.

It’s Week 4 of our exploration into mental illness and its impact on dating and relationships! We’ve covered anxiety, social anxiety, and depression so far. Today, let’s talk about bipolar disorder.

Bipolar disorder (formerly known as manic depression) is classified as a mood disorder, like depression is. However, unlike those with depression, who experience episodes of unexplained lows, those with bipolar experience episodes of unexplained lows along with episodes of unexplained highs that go beyond your run-of-the-mill good day.

The National Institute for Mental Health (NIMH) offers up a good overview of what bipolar disorder and what its symptoms are. The depressive episode may involve the usual depression symptoms: read more…

Relationships and Mental Illness, Week 3: Depression


So, let’s continue with our exploration of mental illness in dating and relationships. Week 0 was an overview on why we’re doing this, Week 1 focused on anxiety disorders, Week 2 was devoted to social anxiety, which means Week 3 will focus on the big D.


Depression, along with anxiety, is one of the most prevalent mental disorders. About 16-17% of people will experience real depression in their lifetime. In the world of disorders, that’s a LOT of people.

According to Psychiatry.org, depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities that you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home. Depression symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can include: read more…

Relationships and Mental Illness, Week 2: Social Anxiety


Welcome to Week 2 of our multi-week focus on mental illness as it relates to dating and relationships. Last week we talked about anxiety disorders; this week we’ll focus specifically on social anxiety.


What is Social Anxiety?

The Social Anxiety Institute defines social anxiety as “the fear of  interaction with other people that brings on self-consciousness, feelings of being negatively judged and evaluated, and, as a result, leads to avoidance. Social anxiety is the fear of being judged and evaluated negatively by other people, leading to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, embarrassment, humiliation, and depression.”

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Christie Hartman, PhD

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